Sunday, June 15, 2014

Day 196 – Redefining the word 'Control'

Self-Allocation Point:

I define the word control as: being able to steer or direct a physical object, person, or outcome to one's will and desire.

Dictionary Definition (from Merriam Webster's free online):

con·trol

verb \kən-ˈtrōl\

: to direct the behavior of (a person or animal) : to cause (a person or animal) to do what you want

: to have power over (something)

: to direct the actions or function of (something)

: to cause (something) to act or function in a certain way.

Sounding the Word Control:

Con Troll – a conning troll.

Troll – an evil green dwarf that lives under a bridge that likes to eat people.

Can't Roll – cannot change with the flow.

More personal insight / creative writing on the word control:

Someone in control is like a 'conning troll' or even a 'cunning troll' who is using his wit or might to take advantage of others for one's own personal gain. Thus, I experience resistance to the word control, to being controlled, and the idea of me being in control. In fact, there is an element of self-sabatoge I see here in relation to the idea of being in control. Like, I don't want to be in control because I am not a troll! Within my own self-definition, I am not like that! Thus, I go with the flow, where-ever it might lead. I am not in control. But I do find myself acting controlling at times, yet I am not directly being controlling because I do not want to admit to myself that I am trying to take control. Someone in control goes against the flow.

Self-Forgiveness:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to charge the word 'control' as negative / bad within and as myself.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see the sound allocation that I have associated with the word 'control' wherein the word sounds to me like a conning troll who goes against the wind / whim of others in order to get what he wants in spite of others. Within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to resist being controlled and resist being in control because I do not want to be seen by others or self as a 'conning troll'.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that that what one resists, persists and that within this point, forming a resistance to being controlled or being in control will not alleviate or change the condition that I am in.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand the sound allocation that I have placed within the word control – where I see one who seeks control as a 'conning troll' out to devour others for one's own personal gain.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand the sound allocation that I have placed within the word control – where I see one who is in control as being 'un-changable' in direction within the point that he 'can't roll' / cannot roll with the 'flow'. Thus, within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react with the emotion / energy of resentment towards others that I perceive to be in control of me in some way.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in resentment towards others or self when in control.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to want to hide from others as to not be scene as in control.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel 'bad' about myself when and as I perceive that I am in control of myself or others.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that no matter what perceived control that I have over others or that others have over me – that I always have control over my own reactions if I decide to, and that I really never have a real control over other beings or things, only perceived.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to be the directive principle within and as myself in each and every breath – where I take control of who I am in here and direct myself as life of the breath and stop the mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I can control others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I can be controlled.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that we never have control over the reactions of others and the randomness of the physical within all the potential outcomes that may manifest. Within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I can control the outcome of events or the outcome of how others will react.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect the idea of not being able to change direction to the idea of control - wherein I perceive that one who is in control cannot change direction to the needs of the given situation, but must maintain direction no matter the consequences in order to maintain control.  Within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect the emotional reaction of fear to being in control or being controlled by others because of the idea that I created within and as myself that with control comes the point of not being able to change if required.

Redefining the word 'control':

1. To be the directive principle of who I am in each and every breath where I decide who I am, not others and not my mind – where I stand and live as the physical, as the breath of life.

2. To direct self in ways that influence others and events to increase the odds of things working out in a way that is best for all.

3. To be able to direct self to change direction in a manner to maintain what is best for all, even mid-stream, if necessary.

Self-Commitment:

When and as I see myself reacting negatively to my perceiving that I am being controlled by others or am in control of others, I stop, and I breathe. I do not accept or allow myself to react negatively towards the idea and perception of being in control or being controlled by others because I see, realize, and understand that there is no real control that exists except control over self and how one reacts within the point of actually directing self to stop all reactions.

Thus, I commit myself to taking control within the point of directing self to be here in each and every breath no matter my external circumstances where I direct me to be and do what is best for all as my self-control.

I commit myself to live this redefined definition of the word control as myself in every breath from this point forward.

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