Sunday, August 16, 2015

Day 358 – The Need to be Validated

I have a need to have the things that I say validated.  When I speak or write something to a group or individual, oftentimes, I go into a waiting mode to hear words of validation.  If I do not hear those words, I become disappointed.  I then begin to project judgments of what imagining what others are thinking about what I have said as if they are judging me to be wrong, or stupid, or fucked up in some way.  When I hear words of validation, then I become relieved and somewhat excited. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create within and as myself the need to be validated.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to need to be validated in order to feel good and secure about myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to project that when I am not validated that that means that others are judging me as ‘dumb’, ‘lost’, ‘or out of line in some way.’

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself as lost, dumb, or out of line in some way’

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in fear / connect fear to the point of other’s seeing me as ‘dumb, lost, or out of line in some way.’

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that the starting point of this need to be validated is self-judgment and also moving within self-interest – where move myself within self-interest; and then I judge myself and then project those judgments onto others as if they are judging me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in disappointment if and when others do not respond at all, or in the way that I picture them / desire them to respond, to what I say and do.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in relief and excitement if and when others respond to in the way that I was hoping that they would respond to my words or deeds.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into energy of hope – wherein I hope that others approve of what I say and do.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hope that others see things the way that I do, because within this I am validated within and as myself as, who I am.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that hope is a useless energy wherein through hope I am trying to bend reality to fit the picture perfect future projected from my mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that if I am not validated, then what I say and do, and who I am is: IN-valid.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that if and when I am validated / perceive myself to be validated, that this means that I am valid within who I am.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to live the word valid as who I am, but instead have lived this word as an energy experience of feeling relieved that I fit into the group and also excited that others ‘see things’ my way.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize, and understand that so long as I am breathing here as the breath and as the physical where I move myself as the director of me, free of any energies, and say and do what is best for all – of no self interest – that in this I am validated myself as the physical and as life – I am living the word valid as who I am – and thus do not need to experience myself as valid / validated because I am already living this.  Within this, I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that all my words and deeds can be reflected upon to see the truth of me and what I am living; and thus it matters not what I say and do – the only thing that matters is that I reflect on what I say and do and then take self-responsibility to change what I am living, that I can see from my words and deeds, to that of what is best for all life.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that what others think of me does not reflect who I am – who I am is only based on what I am living in every breath, here – when I live here as the breath, I am equal and one with all as me and when I live as energy, where I live for the experience of things, I am diminished and limited.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize, and understand that the need to be validated shows me that I fear that I cannot change.  Within this, I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that the pursuit of self-perfection, which is the pursuit of self change into that what is best for all – means that within this pursuit I empower myself to change any and all points about myself that are not best for all and thus there is nothing to fear because fear only shows me that I am not willing to change.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I cannot change.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I am not able to change.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear to the belief that I cannot change and am unable to change, and within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create the desire to be validated, within and as myself, so that I can feel better about who I am right now through the approval of others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to interpret a non-response from others, as “I am not valid what I have said is invalid” when in fact it is simply a non-response and nothing more than that.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to project my own negative self- judgments onto others, as if they are judging me when in fact I am judging myself, own words and deeds - when others do not respond at all or in the way that I expected them too.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hold expectations as to how people should respond to my words and deeds and then become excited or disappointed based on their actual response either fitting into what I expect or not.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to speak within energetic possessions and then feel guilty about it afterwards and then look and hope for some form of validation so that I can feel better about it.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to take a breath before speaking and moving myself, at all times, to assist myself to slow down and make sure that I am not speaking within energetic possessions and / or personalities and characters – that need to be validated, but that I am speaking here as the breath / as the physical / as the director of me and moving myself within what is best for all and of no self interest.  Within this, I forgive myself that when and as I move myself as the physical of no self-interest, that I am validating myself as equal and as life and thus have no need to be validated by others whatsoever. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself create this desire to be validated as a coping mechanism to make myself feel better about who I am as a mind consciousness system wherein I fail to realize that if and when I am standing as the physical and breathing and moving myself within what is best for all, that there is no need for validation. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge being validate as ‘good’ and not being validate as ‘bad’ and within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel good about myself when and as I perceive myself to be validated and then bad about myself when and as I perceive myself to not be validated.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that the need to be validated shows me that I am not living here as the breath and thus am hoping that my acting within energy will be seen by others as ‘good’ and ‘acceptable’ so that I can gain relief and feel better about my energetic mind possession – because if I were here moving myself within and as the breath in every breath, I would not have any need to be validated because I would be standing as validated already within standing as the physical and moving myself within what is best for all.

When and as I see myself going into the need to be validated, where I have spoken words that I then hope to see some form of validation on, I stop and I breathe.  I do not accept and allow myself to go into the this because I see, realize, and understand that this serves only to make myself feel better about what I am already living as myself.  I see, realize, and understand that I validate me when and as I stand as the physical, as the breath, and move within what is best for all of no self-interest.  Thus, I commit myself to immediately breathe and stop this need as soon as I see it come up within and as me.  From here, I commit myself to examine what I was living that I need to be validated for, within self-honesty, where I look at what I said and done to see if I was clear of any energies, and moving with self-interest or not.  From here, I commit myself to apply myself to change those points of self-interest / energy possessions that I was living that I need to be validated for – so that I can validate myself as the physical and thus correct myself to move as the physical, as the breath, and as what is best for all from this point forward.  I remind myself that the need to be validated is INVALID, and that one only needs to move in absolute self-honesty in order to validate self.  I direct myself to take a moment to breathe in the energies of fear, hope, desire, expectations that come up when the need to be validated comes up into my chest area, thereby disconnecting it from my solar plexus where it originates from, and then breathe these energies back into my physical body, thereby grounding them, until I am clear and stable.  I direct myself to slow down, look at what I am living, stop my participation in energy, and thus validate myself by waking what is best for all. 

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