Saturday, October 25, 2014

Day 243 – Anger reaction in relation to person X, part I


 I feel as if I have been misrepresented and falsely accused by 2 people that I know as regarding a certain situation.  My reactions to this caught me by surprise, as because at first when hearing the news of their ‘report’ on me, I was not that upset by it.  But the more I thought about it and compared their report on me to my own memories of the events and who I was in the events, I became more and more upset to the point where I believe to a certain extent and have been participating in internal conversations / back-chat such as ‘I cannot let them get away with this’, ‘they are misrepresenting me’, ‘they are trying to manipulate me’, ‘I have to set the record straight’; ‘they are lying about me or are just completely out of their minds’, ‘they are trying to make me look like the bad-guy and an abuser when I am not.’  So, the more and more that I compare their report on me and my own memories of the actual events, the more and more that this back-chat generates in my mind, and then that charges up anger reactions towards them within the context of my acting in anger to try and get them back, or show them that they are lying about me, or exaggerating about me, or trying to manipulate me in some way, or manipulate others to gain attention for themselves in some way.’  Thus, I have had anger reactions towards one of these people this past week as a consequence of all this.  Now, I really do believe that their ‘side’ of the story is a misrepresentation of motives that I am not completely sure of, because my memories of these events and who I am and who I was during these events definitely do not match their side of the story.  And that is what is making this so difficult to contain, because as soon as I start in with myself about how this is not what happened, etc., then all the back-chat starts coming, etc.  And if I try and let this go and just accept this false report on me, then I feel weak, or as if I am not standing up for myself.  Thus, I am trapped between 2 points – 1.  feeling weak, etc., and 2. getting angry with them.  Now, I am not saying that they are necessarily lying about me, in fact.  I mean, people do have different interpretations of events.  However, in this case, I do believe that there could be some dishonesty on one of these people parts going on. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, as a reaction to hearing a report on my behavior that conflicts with my own memories of both the events and who I was in the events, go into the back-chat ‘I cannot let him / them get away with this because his / their report of me makes me look like an abuser.’  Within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear and have a fear reaction to the point of ‘looking like an abuser.’  Thus, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear of looking like and abuser to fear itself, and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in fear to my own fear / to fear itself.  And thus, within this cycle of fear, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to generate and charge fear energy within and as myself to a point where I channel into an anger reaction – which is actually manifesting the very thing that I fear, as a consequence.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, as a reaction to hearing a report on my behavior that conflicts with my own memories of both the event and who I was in the events, go into the backchat ‘he is lying and making me look like the bad-guy’.  Within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear and have a fear reaction to the point of ‘looking like the bad-guy’.  Thus, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear of ‘looking like the bad guy’ to fear itself, and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in fear to my own fear / to fear itself.  And thus, within this cycle of fear reaction and then reacting to my own fear, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to generate and charge fear energy within and as myself to a point where I channel this fear into an actual anger reaction towards these very beings – which is actually manifesting the very thing that I fear, as a consequence.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, as a reaction to hearing a report on my behavior that conflicts with my own memories of both the event and who I was in the events, go into the backchat ‘he is doing this as a manipulation tactic to gain power and control over me’.    Thus, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear of ‘being controlled and manipulated’ to fear itself, and thus I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in fear to my own fear / to fear itself.  And thus, within this cycle of fear reaction and then reacting to my own fear, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to generate and charge fear energy within and as myself to a point where I channel this fear energy into an actual manifested anger reaction towards these very beings – which is actually thus manifesting the very thing that I fear as a consequence.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow my own backchat and fear of ‘he is lying’, while in conversation with person X, to act as a trigger for me to go into an anger reaction towards person X.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow my own backchat and fear of ‘he is trying to manipulate me’, while in conversation with person X, to trigger a reaction of anger towards person x.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow my own backchat and fear of ‘he is trying to make me look like the bad guy’, while in conversation with person X, to act as a trigger for me to have an anger reaction towards person x.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fuel the emotions of fear by connecting fear to my own backchat, then reacting in fear to the fear that I connected to my backchat wherein from this fear state, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to allow this fear to fuel my imaginations and projections within and as my own mind thus making everything bigger and more serious than what it really is within and as my own mind, and from there connecting more fear to these imaginations and then reacting in fear to those fears that I connected to my imaginations that were fueled and made into more than the actual events they were based on by my initial fear cycle – thus within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to charge up my own fear reactions through imagining and expanding on the event in my mind to make it more than what it actually is and actually represents.  Thus, within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fuck with myself by connecting fear the initial event, then reacting in fear to my fear, then using this fear to fuel and generate my imagination to thus make the event more than what it really is and represents- and then from there connect more fear and more fear reactions to my fear, and on and on until I am consumed with fear and totally detached from what is actually here and what actually happened in the first place.  From within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in anger towards the imagined events that occurred within and as my own mind as imaginations and projections that were merely a consequence of the fear cycle that I just outlined.  Thus, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in anger to my own imaginations, projections, and my own fear reactions. 

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that my reactions in anger towards those who I see as ‘falsely accusing me and misrepresenting me’ are also a defense mechanism so that I  can not have to look at myself and instead blame others for what I may in fact be doing.

I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to slow down and breathe when and as I see myself going into the fear reactions towards both my hearing of what these people have said about me and also to the fear reactions towards my very own back-chat that I have participated in within and as my own mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become consumed and controlled by the energy of the thoughts as back-chats of these people where I go into internal conversations about how they are ‘wrong’ and how I might eventually be able to ‘get through to them’ in order to prove that I am right.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge the others observations and accusations of me as ‘wrong’ both factually and morally.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to separate myself into the polarity of ‘I am right and they are wrong’ thus within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to, through this polarity, create friction and conflict within and as myself and thus fuel the energies of fear, anger, resentment, spite, and revenge towards those who have said these things about me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear towards the physical application and solution of slowing down, breathing, and stopping my own mind / my back-chat and internal conversations due to my belief that if I were to do so, then I would loose control of the situation and that I would be weak and not standing up for myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect the emotions of anger, spite, revenge, and being controlling to taking my power back and standing up for myself.

To be continued…

 

 

 

 

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