Day 314 – Fear of Rejection

I just took a commission only, 1099 arrangement - of which means no boss to move me, sales job, of which has extremely high earning potential, like in the multiple hundreds of thousands of dollars annually; yet at the same time has an extremely high likely-hood of failure to make it.  While seeing if I can make it in this new sales job, I am working my other job at the same time so that I have some income in the mean time. 

Why am I taking on a sales job that has a huge chance of failure?  Because someone’s making it in this field and it might as well be me, dammit!  Instead of avoiding an opportunity like this because I have decided that ‘I am not the person that can make it in this type of sales job’, why not just adopt add the characteristics of what it takes to be successful in this job?  In other-words, why not just become the ‘personality-type’ required to succeed, where most fail? 

The reward is there.  I am talking the potential to make well over 6 figures in a very short period of time.  Can I do it?  The old me cannot.  This is why I am not making 6 figures in sales right now.  But the new me can do this?  Yes, if I face the points holding me back and make the changes necessary, practically speaking.  I mean, with self-forgiveness, I empower myself to literally change myself into whomever I want to be or need to be. 

Thus, today I will face fear of rejection that I have in relation to walking into a business and asking to speak with the owner – this job is business to business sales and I get nervous and even feel guilty about asking to potentially waste a busy business owners time to sell them something that they already have – and yes, LOL, these business owner already have what I am selling them, so this makes it even more difficult.  And by the way, I did not see this as a fear of rejection at first because I defined this ‘fear’ differently, but when I look at it, it is.

 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear rejection.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear to the point of me ‘potentially bugging or disturbing a business owner to sell them something that they already have.’

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in nervousness and anxiety when and as I walk into a business-owners place of work that I don’t already know.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that a business owner does not want to talk to me right when I walk into the door of their business, without any indication of whether or not this is the case.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear to the thought and presumption that a business owner is thinking ‘why is this guy wasting my time.’

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear to the potential reality that the business owner is also fearful that I might be trying to talk them into something that they do not want.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in nervousness when and as I walk into a new business to sell them something because I feel as if I am not completely prepared nor welcome in that place.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I am not welcome in a business that I walk into to make a sales call.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in nervousness and anxiety and awkwardness – where I stutter and bramble a bit as a reaction because I am thinking the whole time that the owner does not want to talk to me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be nervous while making a presentation because I am thinking that the owner of the business does not want to hear what I have to say.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not speak up, not speak clearly, and move through my speaking fast – all because I am reacting in fear to the belief, idea, perception that the business owner does not want to talk to me nor be ‘sold’ something.  Within this, I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to see, realize, and understand that it does not matter what the business owner thinks about me, but that I must stay clear, present, stable, and positive in order to make the most effective presentation possible.

When and as I see myself reacting in nervousness, fear, and anxiety on a sales call, I stop and I breathe.  I do not accept and allow myself to react this way nor do I accept and allow myself to participate in thoughts such as ‘he/she does not want to talk to me’, ‘he/she does not want to spend time with me’, ‘he/she resents me being there in the first place, ‘he/she is afraid of me selling him something’, ‘he/she is sick of sales calls to be sold something he/she already has’, etc.  Instead, I commit myself to stop all these thoughts as judgments that fuel and charge the emotional reactions of nervousness, fear, and anxiety – and ultimately a fear of rejection – and I instead direct myself to delete all this thought and emotional energy through breathing and focusing on my walking, the building, the owner, and things physical around me either through site, sound, or touch – in order to stabilize myself both before and through the meeting in order to be stable, clear, positive, and the most effective possible.  I remind myself that fear of rejection is only in my head.  I remind myself that rejection does not actually exist.  I remind myself that we are all doing the same thing – trying to survive and trying to make as much money as possible.  I remind myself that I need to be positive as a point of practicality because people by positively.