Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Day 167 – BDMWP, Part VI – SF on ‘Blaming my Parents’

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame my mother for my inferiority complex as defined by my feeling inferior about who I am socially with others and compared to others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that I am ‘stupid’.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that ‘I have nothing to say of value to others’

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to live my childhood and early adulthood within the belief that I am ‘less interesting and less fun to be around than others.’

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear to ‘judgments that others may make of me.’

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to connect fear to the point that others might judge me to be stupid or boring or inferior in some way.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to live in fear of what other’s think of me to such an extent that this fear actually changed who I am in relation to others where I would act withdrawn and say very little when around others, predominantly in my younger years.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to compare myself to others and then within that comparison believe that I am less than others.  And within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire and strive to be ‘more’ than others within proving myself to be smarter, funnier, and more talented than others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create a ‘story’ about myself to explain and justify why it is that I cannot get along with others and get what I want from them, such as sex, relationships, money, friends, acceptance, attention, validation.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to create 2 separate stories as justifications as to why I was so withdrawn: 1: that I was a genius of extra intelligence thus I don’t get along with others like normal, and 2: my father’s both were taken from my life and thus I have social problems as a consequence and it’s all my mother’s fault.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to pursue the personal hobbies of chess and classical piano from the starting point of trying to establish myself as superior to others within the point that I am some sort of genius and thus that makes up for and explains why I am not getting what I want within the standard social context with others.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to build ideas and beliefs around words, within and as myself as picture presentations, charged with positive energy - where I would create the desire within and as myself to experience these ideas, beliefs, and words such as ‘sex’, ‘winning’, ‘making people laugh’, ‘being popular’, ‘acceptance’, and ‘validation’ – not realizing that I had given these words, beliefs, and ideas definitions associated with pictures within and as my mind where I am expecting and hoping these beliefs, ideas, and words to play out as an experience within my world;  and when these do not play out in the same way that they are defined and pictured and charged within and as positive energy within my own mind, I become disappointed and then believe that I have the right to experience these definitions of words, beliefs, and ideas and thus go into blaming others, and in this case my mother, that they did not give me these experiences or that my mother screwed me up mentally so that I could not design myself in a way that would grant me these experiences as I have defined them within and as myself as picture presentations charged with positive energy within and as my own mind.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see, realize, and understand that I had created ideas and beliefs around words about what I want for myself, such as sex, popularity, and acceptance and charged these things with positive energy within and as my mind of how, when, what, and where and with whom I would like to experience these things and myself; and as such I had created an expectation within and as myself of what I must experience and thus what other’s must give me as experiences -  and through this I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame my mother for ‘screwing my childhood up and thus creating mental problems for me within and as me as a consequence’ – thus, I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to, within this blame, be creating a way for me to feel better about myself for not being able to get what I want of which are things that exist as picture presentations of ideas, beliefs, and words charged with positive energy within and as my mind.

To be continued.

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